Curiosity means wanting to know or learn more. Generally there is an excitement or keen interest as part of one’s curiosity. Curiousity is being intrigued to know more and that interest keeps one engaged in life.
We might think of those who age, that their interests in others and new things wanes. For some it does yet those who stand out and are seen as interesting themselves, it is because they are curious and interested in what is happening around them. Maybe if we weren’t curious in our youth, we won’t become so in our later years yet to remain engaged in life it helps to be curious about people and events.
There is a difference between being curious and being nosey. Curiosity is usually with the desire to learn or know something that helps to better understand that person or that circumstance. Curiosity helps expand one’s knowledge base. Maybe it is splitting hairs, yet nosey is usually to gain information for one’s own sake and pass it along in a way of gossip or to feel superior in some way. Nosey is a negative, low vibration whereas curiosity is a positive, higher vibration. To the outsider maybe curiosity and nosiness can look the same. The difference would be in the intention and later, how the information is used.
Being curious is also a way of expressing interest in a person or thing. To feel curiosity throughout one’s life is a form of openness and a desire to understand. That’s keeps us young at heart, and that’s gotta be part of aging deliciously!
We seem to be in turbulent times. In such times, we are challenged to learn how to calm ourselves, our innards. To know how to calm oneself can be an important gift to give ourselves and those around us. Emotions can be wild things. We might think they just are our emotions. What can we do? They are real and they are happening. And yes, when a horrible thing happens we will have thoughts and feelings about it. How do we help ourselves calm down? Some people feel they live with adrenaline pumping through them most of the day, based on rushing through their daily life, a feeling of urgency with most things, and the awful news coming from the bigger world of news. The constant adrenaline shooting through the body stresses and fatigues it, and seems to lead to anxious feelings. We all seem to experience levels of anxiety these days. It ain’t fun that’s for sure and too much of it becomes a health risk, especially to our adrenal glands.
So how can we calm ourselves down? What soothes you when you are upset or agitated? Breathing 3 deep breathes right away as we feel ourselves start to get upset, or feel a large emotion about to take hold. Maybe Breathe in for 3 seconds and out for 3 seconds. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. It is quick, easy and available to us all. Breathe deeply before making that phone call you’ve been putting off. Breathe deeply in common daily moments as a reminder and soother for yourself; maybe as you stand at the check out counter, sitting on the bus, walking, driving, waiting. Take some deep breathing moments each day and notice how your body responds.
Maybe a walk in nature, amongst the flora or fauna in your area, soothes you and brings you a sense of calm? Or taking a quiet moment for yourself to sit, listen to music, draw, write or read some pages from a favorite book.
Self-soothing is an important power to have over oneself, as anything outside of ourselves might surprise, hurt, annoy or please us when we least expect it. To self-soothe, or bring our core to a clearer, calmer space means we can be in charge of how we feel and respond. We have that power. And it is an important power to cultivate.
When we find what soothes us, maybe we can share what we’ve learned with others. That way we all help one another share and add more “tools to our toolboxes” to feel better equipped in these wild times.
Take a look. A Colorado man decided to play his saxophone for some cows in the pasture. His wife filmed it. It is a sight to behold. Thank you sir for making the effort and bringing joy to so many.
To act from love takes courage. Our world stage seems in a power struggle between returning to a past ruled by a few through fear, and a possible future when love dominates. Love energy creates, cooperates, heals and opens up new possibilities we can’t see in fear mode.
Leaders or not, what do we each need to do within ourselves to speak, think and act from a loving place versus a fear-based place?
Peace matters. In our hearts. In our families. In our communities. In our organizations. In our leaders. In our world.
Here is a quote by Marshall Rosenberg who developed the curriculum and trainings, Nonviolent Communication.
“Never make a request from a position of authority without revealing your heart.”
Maybe we can build a world and lucrative industry of Peace Makers:)
Marshall Rosenberg (October 6, 1934 – February 7, 2015) was an American psychologist, mediator, author and teacher. Starting in the early 1960s he developed Nonviolent Communication, a process for supporting partnership and resolving conflict within people, in relationships, and in society. He worked worldwide as a peacemaker and in 1984 founded the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international non-profit organization  for which he served as Director of Educational Services.
Funny dog video
This video was made a few years ago, and is still amusing. Nothing like a bit of innocent fun. Enjoy.
“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.