Peace Matters

Peace matters. In our hearts. In our families. In our communities. In our organizations. In our leaders. In our world. 

Here is a quote by Marshall Rosenberg who developed the curriculum and trainings, Nonviolent Communication.

“Never make a request from a position of authority without revealing your heart.”

Marshall Rosenberg, 

Maybe we can build a world and lucrative industry of Peace Makers:)

Marshall B. Rosenberg
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Marshall Rosenberg in 2005
Born October 6, 1934

Died February 7, 2015 (aged 80)

Residence Albuquerque, New Mexico, U.S.
Nationality American
Alma mater University of Michigan
University of Wisconsin–Madison
Occupation Peacemaker
Author
Known for Nonviolent Communication

Marshall Rosenberg (October 6, 1934 – February 7, 2015) was an American psychologist, mediator, author and teacher. Starting in the early 1960s he developed Nonviolent Communication, a process for supporting partnership and resolving conflict within people, in relationships, and in society. He worked worldwide as a peacemaker and in 1984[1] founded the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an international non-profit organization [2] for which he served as Director of Educational Services.

The Golden Rule

The Golden Rule is the underpinning truth of what is taught in all religions, faiths and practices. These are basic truths that come from kind, wise hearts.

We can deny the truth of the Golden Rule yet denial does not change what is true.

Do as you will, as long as you harm no one.

 

Who Said?

When we have a reaction or response to something that seems crazy or messed up or seems to favor a group of people but maybe not us, asking Who said? is a good step in untangling what may not work for you, or maybe our world anymore.

Isn’t it wild to realize that every rule, law, decision of how things need to be, from fashion, to the stock market,  to recycling in our neighborhood, people decided that it made sense and now this is how things are accepted as the way? Who said? Who showed up at those meetings, or had the influence, or knew it would work for making more money or be good for the environment? What was motivating those who decided? Who Said?

It is good to question a lot of things we may take for granted into believing as solid truths. Beliefs we hold , we might make sacred about a rule, law or method.

We believe certain things as that is just how the world works. Who told us? Who makes up the world? People. Who decides? Those in position of power or influence at the time, or those who show up with other ideas. And in many cases we all have choice. Whether to follow the herd (mainstream)  or follow your inner voice of reason and rightness. Trust what is right for you right now, as that usually is where there is true wisdom for oneself and ultimately for our relationships, family and communities. (And we don’t mean justifying our bad behavior and saying that is our inner wisdom.)

Mainstream anything, is just that, the herd not making wise choices for everyone, but doing what is easiest or most convenient for them. Pay attention. When those in your orbit say something they believe to be just the way it is, but it feels crazy weird to you in this changing world, ask yourself , is that right? Who Said? Who does that favor? What is another way I can participate, act, be, contribute that fits my nature right now and does no harm? Do sexy women wear red stilettos shoes? Do strong men not cry,  share feelings, or do laundry? Who said? We each can decide, and in our own confidence or choice, be it micro or macro level, we say.

Who Said? Better conversations and solutions may come from us just asking Who Said? We all can listen, explore, untangle assumptions and amend the plan, practice or direction. Who will be most motivated to ask Who said , and listen? Those who aren’t currently being served by the way things are being done in our homes, work places, communities and beyond.

Who Said? Don’t take this author’s word for it. Keep asking and noticing and making the change that you want to see.

Light and Dark

It seems, for those of us who are sensitive to the externals in our small and big worlds, we can feel overwhelmed. Most of us want to be light and love energy, being caring souls, making decent contributions throughout our days. Yet the dark and fear we see expressed, even by a stranger we may have to deal with who seems permanently angry and ready to strike out, can tap down our nature of hope and trust.

What kind of world do those of us who act from fear in our day -to- day envision is possible? Does fear, being motivated primarily from fear (greed, scarcity, hate, violence, entitlement etc) have a vision for a world or community that will work for everyone? What does it look like once the anger burns out? Will the anger burn out? Does motivation of fear care about others? What does the fear based world look like if the Dark Mongers are in charge?We haven’t seen much laughter, creativity or joy from any of the fear mongers, mostly non-stop anger and steam-rolling. Maybe light and dark need to really talk to each other, as we all have some of each in us, don’t we?

It seems if we are interested in light in our areas of living and functioning, we must keep being love, being curious, being open and being smartly aware. How can we create, build and solve problems from a fear mentality? Creativity comes from being open and relaxed. Fear is the opposite. We contract, tense up, and often are looking for ways to be annoyed or feel disrespected. That seems a narrow tunnel or lens that can keep shrinking if one is threatened by those who speak their truth and want to squash them versus really try to understand their point of view. Even if we disagree, trying to understand would be a good shift. It seems unbelievable that in 2019 different beliefs, desires and ideas cannot be managed in a positive, effective way that serves the greater good. Co-existing is a thing, right?

The archaic model of authority forcing and manipulating what it wants no matter the impact to others, even if the majority disagrees with them, seems still pushing for dominance. May the archaic autocratic model dissolve and disintegrate as the New Renaissance of ethics, integrity and effective models of business and government rise up, demonstrating together we can create a dignified world that works for everyone.